The world has been in lockdown since what feels like an eternity. It has given every one more time to introspect which has brought up their mental struggles to the forefront. A lot many times, people who might be at unrest mentally occupy themselves with chores/socializing and neglect these issues. But with the inability to go out, the lack of physical contact has definitely added to the feelings of loneliness, depression, confinement. It’s thus important to understand that most people who attempt suicide or die by suicide don’t want to die – they just want their pain to end or can’t see another way out of their situation Mental Health issues/challenges don’t occur overnight but unfortunately, we do not talk about mental health aspect of living beings at all. An individual usually goes through a
long struggle with themselves but when persistently everything seems helpless, they attempt suicide. The sad part however is that instead of talking about mental health and addressing related issues so that we can help someone, the society is more intrigued about discussions about hypothetical shady reasons behind such attempt.

Someone who attempts suicide or dies by suicide doesn’t mean that they were not resilient but it only means that they couldn’t take it anymore and decided to end their life. Being someone who in the past has tried to end it all herself two times, I know I didn’t want to die but I wanted my pain to stop and I saw no other way. Fortunately, I didn’t die, and today here I am, in my designated role as a mental health counsellor, helping people with their mental health challenges .The things that I have realised from my own experience and after helping my clients who had a tendency to self-harm is that dying is not a solution. Rather it’s important to realize that if we work on our emotions, strengthen our mind, take all the possible help we can and determine ourselves to face the challenges that come our way- Life is actually worthy of being celebrated. Giving up is not an option.

Mental Health issues/challenges don’t occur overnight but unfortunately, we do not talk about mental health aspect of living beings at all. An individual usually goes through a long struggle with themselves but when persistently everything seems helpless, they attempt suicide. The sad part however is that instead of talking about mental health and addressing related issues so that we can help someone, the society is more intrigued about discussions about hypothetical shady reasons behind such attempt.

The entire world is a big family and only if we all decide to come together can we make a difference. I’ll share some ways to help identify if someone around you needs help, so that we can, in time, help them by being aware of unusual
behavioral patterns (warning signs) like:

I understand, being at the receiving end of an emotionally loaded conversation especially with someone who is majorly depressed or might have suicidal thoughts could be challenging and overwhelming.

• Ask them if they would like to talk about what’s going on with them. They might not want to open up
straight away, but letting them know you are there for them is a big help. If they don’t feel comfortable
opening up to you ask them if you could help them connect with someone they would feel more
comfortable with.
• Accept their feelings and acknowledge that their feelings is real and possible. Listen and don’t judge.
Take them seriously. Let them know you care.
• Offer to help them make an appointment, and go with them if you can. Don’t leave them alone – make
sure someone stays till they are better.
• Seek support from professionals, and from other people, they trust including family or friends.

Experiencing mood swings – depressed, angry or enraged

• Feeling hopelessness, helplessness, worthless, guilty, or ashamed or read or write about dying
• Suddenly seem calm after they have been depressed or suicidal
• Access to harmful things like rope, gun
• Turn to drugs or alcohol to cope with difficult feelings or thoughts
• Lose or gain a lot of weight and unusual eating patterns
• Uncertain and unusual sleep cycles, unusual eating patterns